Serious question: How many times do you say ‘sorry’ every day?
What about ‘just?’ As in “I was just wondering…” or “just checking in to see…”
Are you still counting? If so, I’ll go first. I’m guessing I say sorry at least 30 times a day. I’m sorry for everything. For coming out of a door when someone is walking in. When someone bumps into me. Before I ask a question. After I ask a question. I say it when I need to clarify someone else’s mistake (this is one of my favorites, just did this), “sorry but you must not have read below where I mentioned…” When I start an email that’s really only a day late. I apologize, as I should, when I’m late but also when I’m early and I’m on time. I say sorry in person, in email, on the phone, in texts. I say sorry ALL THE TIME.
Here’s the thing. 95% of these ‘sorrys’ are totally unnecessary, unwarranted, unneeded. It’s like I’m saying sorry for breathing in air. For taking up my small sliver of space in this world. I’ve heard anxious people say sorry too much. I’ve read it’s a habit of people pleasers. And while I agree with both of those, and I certainly am both, I think it’s because women are serial apologizers. Always just floating around this world apologizing for a whole lot of nothing. It’s like a chronic compulsion.
Now that I’ve mentioned it, go back and think about how many times you’ve blurted out “Sorry!” in the last day. Don’t worry, I’ll wait. We might be here a while.